Choose differently

It’s the middle of August and I’m sitting in the driver’s seat of my car parked in front of the DMV, debating whether I should wait or leave. I’m angry and frustrated with my husband, on what happens to be our 2nd wedding anniversary. I had just spent my morning trying to get my new South Carolina license, even though I knew I didn’t have the proper proof of address, but my husband insisted we go anyway, thinking maybe they’d overlook it or let it slide. So when I went up to the lady at the counter and handed over […]

There’s a little black spot on the sun today

A few weeks before we moved to South Carolina, my husband and I paid one last visit to the Windy City and decided to check out Adler Planetarium. As we strolled through the exhibits, learning about moon landings, space exploration and how the universe came to be, we came across one about eclipses. I’ll be honest — prior to visiting Adler I was completely clueless about the Great American Eclipse that would be happening in less than a month. Thankfully, the planetarium got me up to speed. The next one would be on a Monday, August 21, and — hey! […]

The grass is always greener

On one of my training runs for the Flying Pig Marathon this year, I decided to listen to a podcast. I was doing a 14-mile long run on a blustery, sunny Saturday and wanted something that would keep my mind occupied for a good hour, so I chose Marie Forleo’s interview with Tony Robbins. As it tends to happen when I listen to podcasts, my mind heard something that grabbed its attention, prompting it to go off in its own direction. I found myself so distracted from the conversation that I had to pause the episode just to allow myself […]


Do I have grit? That was the question I was left with after the Chicago Marathon. When I looked back on the race and remembered how I fell apart in the last several miles, I couldn’t help but question my willpower and inner strength. I didn’t push through the pain. When my body told me to stop, I listened. I had spent 18 weeks training my body and preparing it to cover 26.2 miles in less than 4 hours, and all I could feel was disappointment — a pain that endured much longer than the aches I experienced on the […]

Be the passenger

It started with a yellow letter addressed to me and my husband. “Thank you for your continued residency at (address),” the letter began. It then went on to inform us that our current lease was ending on June 1, and because they require a 60-day written notice, we needed to notify our landlord no later than April 1 of our intentions to stay or leave. The plan was always to leave. My husband would find a job as an assistant professor, graduate in the spring, and we would move to a new location to begin the next chapter of our […]

Trust yourself

It’s 5 p.m. on a Saturday and I’m in the middle of running 48 laps around the indoor track at the gym. It’s an easy run that I don’t have to think much about, but given the fact that my last run was outside in shorts and a t-shirt (who knew it could get into the 60s in February — in Wisconsin?!) having to run in circles inside is quickly becoming a bore. So I do what normally works when I feel my mental focus fading on a run: think about the race I’m training for. As I start picturing […]

Take care of your vessel

It’s Saturday morning. My head hurts a little from the very little sleep I’m running on but here I am, lying on my yoga mat with some 200 other people inside the Milwaukee Art Museum. “Now let your knees fall to the right side,” says the yoga instructor. In unison we come to this slight variation of the fetal position. I place my hands on my heart and close my eyes. Our 75-minute session is winding down and I’m ready to let the poses and stretches I just put my body through soak in. I breathe. As the yoga instructor […]

What would they do?

You registered for a marathon, but now you don’t feel like getting your long run in. You said this was the year you were finally going to eat healthy and get in a gym routine, but now you just want to order a pizza (and eat the entire thing in one sitting). You promised you’d pay off your debt and watch your spending so you wouldn’t have to worry about paying rent, but now your friends are going shopping and you could really use a new pair of boots. You’ve put aside time every day to work on that side […]

What would life look like?

I look at the clock. It’s after 10 p.m., the time I’d promise myself I’d be in bed by. The alarm I had set for 9:30 p.m. had already gone off and, as I had done every time before, I turned it off and went right back to what I was working on. Which in this case is skimming through web pages for workouts to try. I finally close my laptop and head to the bathroom to shower, feeling disappointed and frustrated with myself. All I did when I got home from work was make dinner, set up my new […]

Why New Year’s Matters

I don’t subscribe to the idea that January 1st is just another day. I don’t believe that the New Year is a trivial holiday. In fact, I think the transition from one year to the next can be one of the most significant times we experience every 12 months. Why? Because it reminds us that time only moves in one direction. Another year has passed and when I reflect on those 12 months, I have mixed emotions. 2016 was not my favorite year. My cat died suddenly in July. I failed to run a sub-4 marathon time in Chicago. I chickened […]